Listening, Language, and the Art of De-escalation
Reflect back content and emotion: “I’m hearing the deadline feels unrealistic and risks quality.” Ask, “What would make this acceptable?” Take notes in the open. When people feel heard, they stop defending and start problem-solving. Practice this in your next standup and watch the tone improve quickly.
Listening, Language, and the Art of De-escalation
Use four steps: observation, feeling, need, request. “When scope changes after sign-off, I feel anxious because I need predictability. Could we review changes weekly?” Specific, respectful language turns blame into collaboration. Post these steps in team channels and invite colleagues to craft requests together for shared clarity.